“There is one area that might be giving people the wrong perception of your weight….your neck/jaw line area. You have such a lovely face and beautiful, expressive eyes and your hands are so beautiful and elegant looking. Please do not take offense about my neck comment. If there were no solution for this, I wouldn’t say anything because you are beautiful the way you are already. It just happens that there are really good remedies out there for many problem areas that get more noticeable with age. You have neck folds that are otherwise known to give one the appearance of a Turkey Neck. Millions of people have this and, in my opinion, a simple neck lift done by a qualified doctor can erase that because it’s an issue that can’t be erased by going to the gym or working out, and it can be distracting.”
My first reaction was to defend myself or lash out. “Why doesn’t she send me a picture of herself and let me pick her apart?” Granted, I am an actress on television and I expect to be scrutinized. But someone taking the time to be concerned about a stranger’s neckline and then emailing some “advice” about how to take care of it kind of blew me away. Anyhow, I’m going to settle on “Focus on yourself” as my response to this person.
The documentary “Miss Representation” tackles the issue of why there aren’t more women in leadership positions, particularly politics and entertainment. One of the reasons is that women and girls are taught from a very young age that their appearance matters most of all. We comment on each other’s make-up and hair more often than we praise each other for our ideas and our intellect.
Thanksgiving Day seemed like a good day to talk about freeing ourselves from that little voice inside your head that tells you that something about you just isn’t good enough. Well, I say… SCREW IT! Give that voice the day off and don’t let the door hit it in the ass. Enjoy your feast, wherever you are and be thankful, because life is a gift. And instead of talking about how FAT you feel or look after you eat, give yourself a compliment. Look in the mirror and say “Hey, I really like how you did your bangs today” or… whatever.
And as women, let’s just be nicer to each other. It was a woman that sent me that email, by the way, not a man. And today, the whole day, I’m going to really nice to myself.
How about you?
Have a great day everyone.